The daytime and nighttime still come and go as they do all year, but the clock now shows a different time. For a day or two, everything seems out of whack.
Coping with the terminal illness or impending death of a loved one, or grieving their death can be like that too: Everything seems out of whack.
It's so hard to take care of everything you need to do, when "all the feels" are coming at you from all sides. Sometimes, all you want to do is rip the hands off the clock and take some time for yourself without any responsibilities!
How can you carve out some time for yourself? Maybe just ten minutes in the evening. Or even a half hour. Or maybe two hours on the weekend. Or even a half day!
Enough to take care of some of your own needs, so you don't completely lose it! So you can face your grief and quit pushing it away. Enough so that you don't get sick. (Have I ever told you about the time I missed most of the last week of a friend's life? I had worn myself down taking care of another dying friend, while worrying about another friend with a newly diagnosed brain tumor? Oy!)
If you need some help figuring out how to carve out some time for yourself – or if you think you would feel guilty for doing it – let's talk.