The wind was blowing yesterday, with gusts up to nearly 30 miles per hour. When I was outside, I looked up to see the tops of the Douglas firs swaying in the wind. The neighborhood was quiet and the sound of the wind through branches was so clear.
Several decades ago, the wind in the trees of my parent’s last home was magical to me when I visited from the city. But I know more now, having lived in the country myself – especially after the great winds and snows of a year ago in Oregon. Those trees can fall hard, destroying whatever’s in their way when they land. And therein lies this week’s reflection.
What are the subtle things that could lead you to a melt-down while you care for a loved one with a serious illness or as you grieve a death? Have you noticed your personal indications that “a storm is brewing”?
When you see a coping-storm or a grief-storm on your horizon, how do you prepare?
• Do you “run away,” switching into numbing behavior?
• Or, do you face the storm and let the winds wash over you?
If you try to outrun an emotional storm, it only grows stronger. If you prepare to stand your ground and feel the winds and rain, it will pass.
If you try to ignore the way your body feels as your personal storm overtakes you – maybe jittery or tense – you only feel worse. If you take action to prepare, or to do something to dissipate the energy – like grounding lightening – your body will treat you better.
What have you done to prepare for your coping-storms or grief-storms?
How well do you know what may bring on a storm for you?
These are parts of coping or grieving responsibly.
Let me know if I can help.