Personalized Grief Support

for loss or death that has happened

For individuals, families, or groups of people grieving the same loss together: a death (including a pet), unchosen divorce or end of a meaningful relationship, loss of a job you love or your career, etc. — any change that has left a hole in your life, even if something new may come to take its place.

Whatever life change you're facing, personalized grief support can help you with your process. These private meetings are a time for your concerns to be heard and addressed.

Things we may focus on:
• emotions and stories about the loss you have suffered or the person who has died
• for questions and answers about practical matters
• for explorations of your own process
• for honoring the person who has died or the part of your life that has changed
• and for suggestions on what you may find helpful at this particular time.

Personalized Coping Support

for loss or death in the future

For individuals, families, or groups of people facing the same loss or death together: your serious or terminal illness (because you'll be losing your connection to life and to those you love), the serious or terminal illness of someone important to you (including a pet), having to leave a job or carer, a relationship change you didn't choose, etc. — any change that will leave a hole in your life, even if something new may come to take its place.

Whatever life change you're facing, personalized coping support can help you with your process. These private meetings are a time for your concerns to be heard and your questions about the process to be answered. I will help you identify your coping strengths and learn some new ones. See also Things we may focus on, above.

(These sessions are not about deciding whether to make a change in your life. They are about coping with a change you can't avoid.)

Grieving children's needs:

I can help you understand how to talk with your children about death and grief – both their grief and your grief.

Losses and deaths you can't talk about with other people:

When people don't take your grief seriously, your process can be harder on you and may take longer. This is called disenfranchised grief. Some examples are when you're in a hidden relationship with someone who gets seriously ill or dies, or when your pet is given a terminal diagnosis or dies and your friends or co-workers think you shouldn't be grieving. In these cases, professional grief support can be very important in helping you.

Other details

All sessions are by appointment only. Our first meeting is free and lasts around 20 to 30 minutes. This allows us to get to know each other a bit and decide whether we're a good fit for working together.

If you want therapy or counseling (the diagnosis of mental illness or a plan to "fix your life"), or if I assess your situation as needing more than grief support, I will be happy to refer you to appropriate professionals.

I am quite comfortable with questions and discussions of a religious or spiritual nature, although the support I offer is not theological in nature. If you would rather work with someone of the same religion as yours, I can help you prepare some questions for your religious leader.

Please contact me if you have questions or want to book an appointment.